Or as the saying goes “Silence is the best reply to a fool”
I have been renting a flat in somebody’s garden for over 7 years. In all this time I lived there very peacefully. The property consists of 2 flats and a house. The problem started when the house was rented out.
The renters of the house consisted of 1 yappy dog, two young boys being home schooled and the noisiest parents ever.
The boys were left unsupervised the whole day and I still don’t know what they did or did not do all day, but it certainly was not school work. The noise that emanated from those two would have broken noise levels never heared off.
The dog was just left to its own devices. Being bored it just barked. Period.
The parents used to come home from work, throw the dog out, shut the door and continued partying or whatever it was they were doing. Again the noise would have broken records. The dog barked and scratched at the back door non-stop.
I stay in one flat, the owner of the house’s father and mother in law in the other flat and the very noisy couple, kids and the dog in the house.
For some reason or other this noisy couple could make as much noise as they liked and poor me was never allowed to say anything about the noise. For instance they played their TV so loud that my windows rattled.
Then one day the “father in law” had a go at me, and I got blamed for everything that was wrong in the neighbourhood. If I say everything I mean everything. I feel almost I got blamed for what happened, or has gone wrong in the whole of this small city. Yes, it was as bad as that!
Shocked is not the right word. Flabbergasted you name it I was it. I stood there and allowed this man to insult me. Luckily the day before I received a whatsapp message that was so funny and so stupid I just wanted to share it with everybody. I cannot remember when last I laughed so much. But my inner voice - intuition, kept saying to me do not respond!
Standing there, being insulted and blamed for things I did not even know happened, I kept saying to myself “do not respond”. I walked away without saying a word.
Was I hurt? Was I upset? The answer is yes to everything. This touched me deeply. If I had done something wrong I would have been first to apologise, but too blamed for things I knew nothing about, that really hurt.
If he had an issue with me and he discussed this with me “only” I would have understood, but no he then discussed this whole matter with the tenant, the noisy one. Now this upset and annoyed me immensely. Who gave him the right to discuss this private matter with this other tenant?
Luckily for me my friend Heather whom I have known for a while talked to me and helped me overcome this whole issue, thank you Heather.
I am now again on speaking terms this gentleman and even though I am still peeved that he discussed this matter with the other tenant. In many ways I am glad it happened as I do not have to be friends with this couple anymore and in many ways I am sad that this old man ended up being such a fool!!
So remember never argue with a fool!!